Single Ladies: Seven Things God Wants You to Know

Posted on July 19, 2025

I have been asked several times why I only write articles for married couples and husbands. Women often reach out to me and say, “What about us single ladies out here looking for the kind of husband and marriage you’re always writing about? When are you going to do something for us?”

So, I began to pray. I asked the Lord to help me lovingly address their concerns while accurately reflecting His Word, without adding or taking away anything in fear of offending or alienating those who will read the article. And here we are, four weeks later. I’m finally ready to share what God has placed on my heart, based solely on His Word, focusing on seven biblical truths regarding singleness.

1. Stop Searching—God Doesn’t Need Your Help

The first thing God wants you to know is this: He doesn’t need your help. Stop searching for a husband. Scripture clearly says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22, NIV). That means it’s not your job to go on the hunt. Instead, God calls you to seek Him.

Matthew 6:33 gives both a command and a promise:“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Your focus should not be on finding a man but on finding more of God. In His timing, if it's His will, He will align your path with the one He has chosen for you. Trust His process and surrender your timeline.

2. Singleness Is a Gift from God

Yes, your singleness is a gift even when it doesn't feel like it. Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 7:7, “Each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.” Singleness is not a burden or punishment; it’s a divine opportunity.

In Matthew 19:11, Jesus Himself affirmed that singleness is a calling not everyone receives: “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.” This season is not a holding pattern—it’s a space God has carved out just for you to grow in Him, unencumbered and undistracted. It’s your time to bloom under His care and direction.

3. Use This Time for Undivided Devotion

Singleness offers a special kind of freedom—one where your heart, time, and energy can be fully invested in the Lord. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 that the unmarried woman can be “concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit.”

This is your season to know God more deeply, to hear His voice clearly, and to walk in intimate obedience without the distractions that often come with family responsibilities. When you belong to the Lord, your devotion isn’t divided—it’s pure and powerful.

4. You Have More Opportunities to Serve

The fourth thing God wants you to know is that singleness allows you to serve more freely. Without the responsibilities of a spouse or children, your hands are more available to the work of ministry. Whether that’s through mentoring, missions, teaching, or hospitality, you are equipped and empowered to be a vessel.

Galatians 5:13 says, “...through love serve one another.” Don’t underestimate the powerful impact your service can have on others. The church needs your voice, your presence, and your gifts. So, step in boldly, you were created for such a time as this.

5. Find Contentment Where You Are

Yes, singleness can be hard. But God calls you to contentment, not complaint. Paul learned this and shared it in Philippians 4:11: “I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.” That doesn’t mean you have to deny your desire for marriage—it means you trust God in the meantime.

Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” When you delight in God, your desires begin to align with His. That’s where peace and contentment dwell—in knowing that your Father is good and His plans are perfect.

6. This Is a Season for Seeking God's Will

God has not forgotten you. In fact, this season may be the very time He wants to use to reveal His calling and purpose for your life. Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek Me and find Me when you seek Me with all your heart.”

This is your moment to press in. Let your prayers go deeper. Ask Him to clarify your spiritual gifts, your assignment, your passion. Don’t waste this season waiting—spend it walking with God and discovering what He’s uniquely positioned you to do for the Kingdom.

7. Singleness Is Not Second-Class

And finally, the seventh thing God wants you to know is this: You are not less-than. You are not overlooked. And you are not incomplete.

1 Corinthians 7:32-35 reaffirms that singleness is not inferior to marriage—it’s just different. Both marriage and singleness are gifts. Both can glorify God. The world may place more value on romantic love, but God places value on obedience and faithfulness, in whatever season you’re in.

Psalm 121:5 reminds us, “The Lord watches over you—the Lord is your shade at your right hand.” You are seen, covered, protected, and loved.

In Summary

Dear single sisters: Don’t despise your season. Embrace it. This time is not a punishment—it is preparation. God is doing something in you that marriage cannot accomplish. Serve Him. Seek Him. Trust Him.

He knows what He’s doing with your life. Whether marriage is in your future or not, know this: you are complete in Christ, and His love for you is never conditional on your relationship status.

Amen.

Let these questions guide your prayer time, journaling, or small group discussion. As you reflect, open your Bible and allow God's Word to search and shape your heart.

1. Am I becoming a better version of myself to prepare for marriage?

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”

—Romans 12:2 (NIV)

2. Have I acknowledged the areas I need to work on regarding my mindset or antiquated lists of what I want in a man?

“There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death.”

—Proverbs 14:12 (NIV)

“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.”

—Psalm 51:10 (KJV)

3. Am I approachable and open to criticism or critique from elder women in my church or family who may see things I need to work on and address?

“Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise.”

—Proverbs 19:20 (NIV)

“The older women… are to teach what is good, and so train the young women…”

—Titus 2:3-5 (ESV)

4. Can I be an active listener and not overtalk or overpower conversations?

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”

—James 1:19 (NIV)

“Let your conversation be always full of grace…”

—Colossians 4:6 (NIV)

5. Am I spiritually mature enough to be mentored by a godly woman?

“Let the wise listen and add to their learning and let the discerning get guidance.”

—Proverbs 1:5 (NIV)

“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”

—Proverbs 27:17 (ESV)

6. What books am I reading to support and encourage my spiritual growth and maturity?

“The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out.”

—Proverbs 18:15 (NIV)

7. Am I bringing my past relationships and baggage into my future relationships?

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.”

—Isaiah 43:18 (NIV)

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”

—2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV)

8. Have I forgiven the people who have hurt me, let me down, or damaged my self-esteem?

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

—Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)

9. Do I have a “Daddy Wound” or “Mama Wound” that has not been addressed?

“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”

—Exodus 20:12 (NIV)

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

—Psalm 147:3 (NIV)

10. Have I forgiven myself for the mistakes I’ve made in the past?

“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

—Romans 8:1 (NIV)

“As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.”

—Psalm 103:12 (NIV)